Codependency
“Codependonself”
Please don’t expect me to be your savior, plucking you from the turbulent waters you find yourself in. For if I take on this task, then the riptide it creates will surely pull us both out to sea.
Please don’t ask me to be the band aid that covers up your wound, shielding you from exposure. For if I attempt to hide your wound from view, then your ability to see its cause, will also be hidden.
Please don’t desire me to be your voice. For I would rather remain silent, allowing you the opportunity to find yours.
Please don’t see me as your psychic, somehow having the ability to know what it is you need. For I would rather offer you the space to freely share your true heart’s desires.
Please don’t seek to be the center of my universe. For I have a Higher Power who fulfills that role, quite perfectly.
Please don’t yearn for me to fill your heart with love. For until you seal the leak caused by lack of self-love, then any love poured in, will inevitably seep out.
Please don’t assign me as your anesthesiologist or worse – your surgeon, hoping that I will numb your pain or extract it completely. For if I play these roles, the relief will be temporary, and the scar tissue left behind will prevent us both from feeling anything.
What can you ask of me you wonder? Ask me to stand beside you, providing you a comfortable refuge for the storms you will undoubtedly face. Ask me to hold your hand, as you rip off the band-aid that needs removing. Ask me to be your champion, reminding you of the courage you hold to face your darkest fears. Ask me to listen with full attention, as you vulnerably share from the space of your heart. Ask me to be the silence, as you hear your voice echoing across the canyons. Ask me to be your mirror, showing you the loving soul residing within. Ask me to be the cloudless sky, allowing you to see clearly, the universe awaiting you. Ask me these things, and I promise I will do my best to honor you.
As you learn to depend on you, and I learn to depend on me, then we create a new dance where respect and love can flourish equally… “codependonself.”